Put your mind at ease

 

One day, Buddha was walking from one town to another with  few of his followers. While they were traveling, they happened to pass by a lake. They stopped to rest there and Buddha asked one of his disciples to get him some water from the lake. A disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed some people were washing their clothes  and, right at that moment, a bullock cart also started crossing  the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy. The disciple thought, “? How can I give this muddy water to my master to drink!”? So he came back and told Buddha, ?”The water in the lake is very muddy. I don’t think it is suitable to drink.?” After a while, Buddha again asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water.The disciple obediently went back to the lake. This time they found that the mud had settled down and the water was clean so they collected some in a pot and brought it to Buddha.He looked at the water then looked up at the disciple and asked, him“? What   did you do to make the water clean. We let it be and the mud settled down on its own.

This is also the same with our mind. When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time and it will settle down on its own. When you face with problems or you are in an angry mood, avoid confrontation. It's like adding oil to the fire. Be careful enough to control your emotions. Don't react immediately. Give time to think before  passing  your remarks.Take a deep breath, leave  your mind to cool down and  with a cool mind , analyse the situation and appropriately  respond. If you are on
 the wrong there is nothing wrong in apologizing .It's human to make mistakes and divine to forgive. Give up your 'Ego'. It will be of good use to you in the journey of your  life. But, most of us are unaware of this and often  loose patience and  pick up quarrel  which gives only a  temporary relief. In anger we loose all our human quality and are  degraded to the status of an animal.The harmful effect being  we spoil our reputation and the smooth relationships  we nurtured with our fellow human being. We forget the fact that it took years to build a trusty worthy relationship but a second to break ; leaving a deep and  fresh scare in our mind whenever we think about the mishap which took year back. Think for a while.... Is it going to do anything good by carrying grudge and hatred when no one knows the span of our life in this world . Hasn't this fight for superiority  built  only walls .
 

Dear folks,  remember our tongue is our greatest enemy. What goes out cannot be taken back. A loose talk ,a meaningless comment passed on others, or a time pass joke can causes a deep scar. Be careful while using words .They are our own meter scale .We will be judged by the same meter scale we judge others. Our words are our 'looking glass self '.

The power of words

                    

A blind man was once sitting on the street with a sign board which read-‘I AM BLIND,PLEASE HELP ME.’Many passed by. Some felt pity on the man and dropped him coins.A woman passed by.She worked in an advertisement company. As she passed by, an idea struck her. She walked back, took the sign board and scribbled something different. All those who passed by started dropping in coins and within a few hours his hat was full .The blind man did not know what miracle had happened. In the evening the lady on her way back from office happened to pass by the blind man again .He recognized the woman by her voice. He asked her- what did you do to my sign board. She replied, I changed the words and it seems to have worked well for you. I just wrote -“It’s a beautiful day and I can’t see it”.It touched the hearts of many .They empathized and it caused the miracle.

A slight change in our words could make a world of difference. The same message conveyed with different words and a different voice modulation can bring about change in our attitude as well as that of the others.Try this tip to experience real happiness. This can be applied to any sphere of life that we are involved in.

“Change your words

 And

 you can change the world”

It can be applied to our personal life.Be it with people at home or in office or with people whom we meet on the way. Every individual has a deep thirst for peace and happiness. All hunt for ‘the treasure box of happiness’, not knowing its origin and where it lies. So how do we get it? What is the secret? Nothing but being content and making others happy by our words and deeds. Yes, dear folks- Happiness is a give and take commodity. It lies within us.It’s internal.We are responsible for being and not being happy because we are its creator. Our ignorance of its source has created havoc and hence we were unable to use the treasure that God given us in the intended way. In this high-tech world we all are like machines.We have become so blind that we are unable to experience what is within us, around us and we walk around in search of happiness knocking door after door. Everyone should keep aside time for self-evaluations or introspection, which is the best technique to know who we are. Fifteen minutes meditation will give us a clear picture of our own self. Start loving yourself first, only then one can radiate happiness to others. A candle has to be lit to radiate light similarly, we have to bring about necessary changes within us to be happy, which is the ‘I am Okay,You are Okay position’.

Happiness is the most valuable treasure and can be experienced only if we have the right mental make up to see  others happy as we are.The first move should be ours.Take it bravely. Don’t wait for others to take a move.Be selfish in the first move and then you can enjoy the fruit of happiness all throughout your life.Reach out to your fellow human beings when they are in need. Thus by making others happy we will be internally driven than externally. Happiness is internal whereas pleasure is external. The difference between the two is that pleasure has a short life, whereas happiness has a long life. This explains why the inner satisfaction we experience out of helping others stays with us lifelong and the thought of it gives us mental satisfaction and a good feeling which cannot be expressed by words. Real happiness is the life force that keeps us  moving ahead.

 In this story of the blind man, it was a give and take act that took place instinctively and intritively. The blind man could earn his living with his disability and the woman who scribbled on the sign board acted as a catalyst that brought in a livelihood for him. She by her act opened the eyes of thousands of people who passed by his side.For this, she first of all opened her inner eye to feel empathetically for the blind man. Her act of kindness has filled  her with happiness and lifelong satisfaction which elevated her to a different plane. Do a good deed daily. Teach your children through your words and actions. A minute difference in your inner self can make a great difference. Try these tips and experience the real happiness in you. Be compassionate to your fellow human beings. Isn’t that real happiness? Experience this joy yourself.

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